I just had an unpleasant interaction of the familial-kind.
As it turns out my desire to stay as far away from baby-cousin's impending matrimonial adventure as I can has been construed as some sort of twisted resentment that she got engaged before I did (or-some-such-rubbish). Even as I reel under this strange-strange assumption I try - most unsuccessfully - to explain that while I love N to bits and I want her to be happy always, it's the half-pitying half-exasperated looks coupled with lectures to the tune of 'this-could-have-been-you-if-you-hadn't been-studying/working/too-choosy etc' that I've been avoiding like the plague.
But somehow nothing seems to convince them otherwise. After assorted 'talks' from my grandparents, a few aunts and a perfectly random (but-well-meaning) relative, I'm totally fed up and seriously re-thinking making an appearance for the engagement party. Except that'll just reinforce the old-bitter-sad-ass-spinster image.