October 16, 2009



I just had an unpleasant interaction of the familial-kind.

As it turns out my desire to stay as far away from baby-cousin's impending matrimonial adventure as I can has been construed as some sort of twisted resentment that she got engaged before I did (or-some-such-rubbish). Even as I reel under this strange-strange assumption I try - most unsuccessfully - to explain that while I love N to bits and I want her to be happy always, it's the half-pitying half-exasperated looks coupled with lectures to the tune of 'this-could-have-been-you-if-you-hadn't been-studying/working/too-choosy etc' that I've been avoiding like the plague.

But somehow nothing seems to convince them otherwise. After assorted 'talks' from my grandparents, a few aunts and a perfectly random (but-well-meaning) relative, I'm totally fed up and seriously re-thinking making an appearance for the engagement party. Except that'll just reinforce the old-bitter-sad-ass-spinster image.

*ARGH*

12 comments:

Gaia said...

Awww Xeb! hang in there...

Deepak Iyer said...

I'll go with that too, 'Hang in there'

But you should go to the ceremony - and post a youtube video of evil aunts harassing you.

Sakhmeth said...

At 27 in a family who weds its girls at 16, I am the ultimate outcast. My baby SISTER got married last week. You can probably imagine the horror I felt in my tummy-mind-limbs-soul all year. The snide remarks which they don't even bother to disguise, the pity talks, the pep talks. But u know what?
I decided that for this one month, while all 57 family members travel across the world to set up camp in my house, and celebrate my darling sister's wedding....I will be on my best behaviour. So i dedicated the month to her (my sister)...and smiled and nodded at all the right places.
Needless to say, i got three 'rishtas' that made me want to puke during the wedding...and i mean DURING the wedding while sister was on stage. :S
But a week after, they all got so wrapped up in trying to pick at every evil in the boy's family...that they forgot all about the "evil" in their own family (aka me) :P

Moral of my rambling: as hard as it is, riding it out and putting on a pleasant face seems to work after all.

Best of luck!

Ali said...

'old-bitter-sad-ass-spinster'

When did this happen, or did i miss something...

Nida said...

You should ask the aunties how their marriages/lives are going and whether it paid to not study/work/be too choosy...

Xeb said...

G: :)

D: Haha, youtube videos coming right up!

S: I hear you. Next year, I shall be you. I wonder why people think every woman's priority is to get engaged/married to any random guy (no offence to ARG) who happens to pop into their life. Fuck that I say, plenty of men have come and gone, not one worth marrying. I figure I'm better off waiting for one who is before I jump. And no regrets. *bus*

A: It apparently did, sometime when I wasn't looking. It seems that you weren't the only one who missed something! :P

N: Good point :)

Lonely Perverted Soul said...

hmm... forget for abt the engagement party... throw a party for yourself and your friends.... And maybe invite me too... :P

Xeb said...

LPS: Haha, I'd love to. But sadly I do love baby-cousin much much. It's off to Khi for party for me! :)

Castro said...

Tell them you are having a live-in relationship. And watch them die.

uglyduckling91 said...

Tell them about this Duckling..

sharbet said...

goodness that does sound tough! i guess in that sense, i'm lucky that i don't live near many relatives. or that girls in my family haven't really been marrying early. funny i'd never noticed that before but it may possibly be why i've been spared the talk. anyway, keep up the good humour and remember that the age at which you get married makes NO DIFFERENCE WHATSOEVER to your happiness or married life. and also thanks for adding me on the blogroll. :)

Xeb said...

C: Were I 'in' a live-in relationship, I'd tell them. Given that I'm not, I see no point in making my life yet more complicated! :P

ud: what about this duckling? :P

s: anytime :)