March 12, 2009

Imagine waking up (early) in the morning to this following parable sent to you by your mom (of all people). I know what she's trying to say, but a part of me just did 'not' want to hear this right now! :P

A student asked a teacher, 'What is love?'

The teacher replied, "Go to the wheat field and choose the biggest grain of wheat and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and pick up only one grain. Once you've picked up the grain you come straight back"

The student went to the field, and through first row, he saw one big ear wheat,but even as he picked it up, he wondered if wondered, maybe there would be a bigger one later so he left it behind and moved on. He went ahead and saw another, bigger piece of corn and he felt his earlier decision was ratified. And, his behavior reinforced, he left the bigger grain behind and held out in hopes of even bigger one in the rows that followed. Later when he was through more than half the field he realized that he had crossed the biggest grain of wheat three rows ago, but was forbidden from going back. And regret began to eat at him. Because he kept comparing, none of the other grain was good enough and eventually he went back to the teacher empty handed.

The teacher said "...this, my child, is love... you kept looking for a better one, because you hoped it was there and in the process you gave up what you already had in anticipation of a future that did not materialize"

"What is marriage then?" the student asked.

The teacher said, "For your answer, go to the corn field and choose the biggest ear of corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and you cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the corn field, but this time he was wiser. He went through the field and careful not to repeat his previous mistake, he picked one medium piece of corn that he liked very much, was satisfied with, and not looking any further he turned back and presented the corn to his teacher.

"This", the teacher said,"is marriage. This time you learned from your previous mistakes and you did not look for perfection and move on in hopes of better. You found something that 'just nice', something that you suited you, but may not be the epitome of all you once desired. But you picked it anyway, and in bringing it back to me, you proved that this time you have faith that this ear of corn is the one you chose,and you commit to it without thinking about the possibility of bigger (future) corn.'


Saad said...

Moral of Story: You love wheat. You marry corn.

Xeb said...

Precisely. The real question though, is how am I supposed to find corn in a wheat field? :P

Xeb said...

Oh, I know! I will make a conscious effort to find someone who I can NOT fall in love with, no matter what I do. When I find this person, I shall ask him to marry me! :P And THEN when the messiness of crappy emotions is out of the picture, perhaps I shall be happy!

(actually, now that I think about it, it sounds like a workable plan! What think you Boid?)

heewa said...

ahhahahaha oh mama!

Xeb said...


Marina said...

It's kind of depressing, the entire picture this idiot guy presents of marriage. It's like you're settling for less than you want. You just...compromise on your dreams. And sometimes it works out, yeah, but what about all the times it doesn't? Aren't you always haunted by the fact that you might have gotten the biggest piece of corn if you had just looked a little longer?
Or have I missed the point of this totally?

Xeb said...

Sigh. Like all parables, there are many points to this stupid story.